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When Nothing Seems
to be Going Right
It’s more then just a bad hair day. Truth is, you don’t even care how your hair looks because everything that can go wrong is going wrong. It’s not like you created the problems yourself and are having to fix your own mess. That is easy enough to deal with. No, this is about those days when nobody takes you seriously, every light turns red when you are on a tight schedule as it is, and your spouse is in one of their darker moods. You drop your lunch in your lap and there is no way you can sneak back home to freshen up, the tax man just chose you for his next audit, and your sister calls to say she has a lump in her breast and is terrified to go in for a check up. Your boss tells you that you are doing an awesome job and deserve the pay raise you have asked for, but the company can’t afford to give it to you and you love your job too much to quit. You cannot seem to get through the red tape of a bureaucracy that holds some sort of power over your ability to succeed at your dreams. The computer system goes down at work and you cannot finalize a very lucrative time sensitive deal that you were trying to close. No matter what you do, everything around you just seems to be going wrong and you are continually finding doors slammed in your face, brick walls in your path, and glass ceilings above you. How do you cope? How do you get out of the crazy maze that has you feeling trapped, alone, and helpless?
Yes, it is true that we often subconsciously create our own problems, but there is also another fact of life and that is sometimes bad things happen to good people for no apparent reason. Unfortunately, sometimes a whole bunch of bad things happen all at once. The result can be very overwhelming. It is natural to want to give up and quit. Quit your job, quit your marriage, and quit your battle with the bureaucracy that is holding you back. It is also natural to want to punch something or someone and to simply force your way through the problems. Start bullying everyone while demanding that “Heads are gonna roll!” to anyone within earshot. Neither extreme really works in the long run.
The most important thing to do is to take a moment and catch your breath. So often people will keep on pushing forward without really focusing on the big picture. They cannot see the forest for the trees and are just thrashing around trying to stomp out one fire after another without really analyzing the entire situation from an outside perspective. Take a step back and simply look at the whole thing as one great big problem with lots of little pieces. Remind yourself that if these problems were all spaced out so they happened one at a time that you would be able to maneuver through each one without falling apart emotionally. It is the sheer number of events that come at you all at once that is the real problem.
Take a moment to organize your thoughts and to come up with a loose plan of action.
By reminding yourself that you are technically capable of handling each one of these
problems if it stood alone, you can begin to tap into your self-
Now, prioritize your problems, issues, and roadblocks. Only you can juggle in your
mind which tasks need to be attended to first and which ones can wait. I might tell
you to ignore your lunch stained outfit without knowing that later today you are
going to make a multimillion-
Then take out a sheet of paper and write down a loose game plan as to how you want
to go about fixing, changing, and dealing with all of the various elements that will
need to be handled. Write it down even if you normally do not use to-
Finally, look over your plan; see that solving all of these problems and surviving
this bad day is quite do-